Pearls Journey

  Always have a willing hand to help someone, you might be the only one that does. When I wake up in the morning, I'm used to checking my phone notifications. Today someone who just joined our team messaged me. We've spoken a few times and s he seems to like talking to me. At first I never would have thought s he wouldn't reach me because in our team, I guess I'm the oldest compared to the others. It seems that this girl is young, passionate, wants to help and support others. At some of our previous convos s he asked me maybe I could give her some tips on how the best way to do it. I just told her that s he better try it by herself first and over time s he will be able to understand the pattern and if there is anything s he doesn't understand s he can reach me or the others on the team. This time s he asked me if I ever felt that there everyone just wanted to chit chat and no one needed help or advice. When I read it, it honestly reminded me of the first ...

  “Goodbyes make you think. They make you realize what you’ve had, what you’ve lost, and what you’ve taken for granted.” Sometimes one wonders when someone leaves them without explanation. They felt they did nothing but in the end they were left behind. They focus on their pain without thinking about why they were left behind. But has anyone ever thought about the reason why that person was abandoned? Especially if the person doing so is someone they deem important to them. There are many reasons why someone chooses to leave especially if that person has tried their best, put in their best effort but all of that is never considered by others. While they often blame others for leaving them without an explanation instead of introspecting themselves, could it be that they were the ones who made the mistake that someone so important to them left them? Often times, because they are too comfortable with someone, they forget that they also have to pay attention to the other part...

  Truth is like surgery. It hurts but it cures. A lie is like a pain killer. It gives instant relief but has side effects forever. The word narcissism gets tossed around a lot in our selfie-obsessed, celebrity-driven culture, often to describe someone who seems excessively vain or full of themselves. But in psychological terms, narcissism doesn’t mean self-love—at least not of a genuine sort. It’s more accurate to say that people with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) are in love with an idealized, grandiose image of themselves. And they’re in love with this inflated self-image precisely because it allows them to avoid deep feelings of insecurity. But propping up their delusions of grandeur takes a lot of work—and that’s where the dysfunctional attitudes and behaviors come in. Narcissistic personality disorder involves a pattern of self-centered, arrogant thinking and behavior, a lack of empathy and consideration for other people, and an excessive need for admiration. Oth...

  “For beautiful eyes, look for the good in others; for beautiful lips, speak only words of kindness; and for poise, walk with the knowledge that you are never alone.” — Audrey Hepburn   We will never know who we will cross paths with. Sometimes the ending can end badly but it can also end happily. Like the experience I've had. I'm not the type to easily share my burdens with others because I know everyone has their own problems. Sometimes we don't even know what their state is like. Based on my experience, sometimes if we want to share our problems to lighten our burdens then the person that we are talking to is not in a good situation, what will happen is a misunderstanding … Maybe they will still listen to us because they think they have to because we always listen to them whenever they need us and it makes them want to do it just because they feel bad while actually they are not at their best condition for talked to. In the end I decided to join in on a p...

  There are wounds that never show on the body that are deeper and more hurtful than anything that bleeds. – Laurell K. Hamilton Knowing when everyone is rejecting you, belittling you, and doubting you is definitely stressful. Knowing that everything you do always seems to never be enough for them is quite frustrating. That's something I often experience. Everything I do seems never enough and always ends in mistake. To always stand back and try to prove that we are not someone like that is also not an easy thing. This is an experience I had recently. To this person, I was always the one who never did anything right, I always made mistakes and I always did all kinds of stupid things. I never knew what sin I had committed until s he could judge and make such assumptions about me. I only regret one thing . I didn't expect that s he should have been the first person to support me, cheer me up when I was down but turned out she was the one who brought me down the most. ...

  We don’t meet people by accident. They are meant to cross our path for a reason. Never judge someone by their physical beauty. I often hear this from several people who at first they were strangers and then turned into my best friends. During my time as a volunteer, I got to know a lot of people. I got a lot of experience. Like this story, at that time I knew him because he sent me a DM. I asked him what brought him there. He was engaged and his parents did the arranged marriage for him. He said that in a few months he would be getting married. I asked him, if he was engaged, then why he felt lonely. Doesn't he now have a fiancé that they should both learn to know each other before their wedding? He told me actually he wasn't comfortable with any of that. He also felt that he did not like the girl his parents chose. It's just that because his parents were forcing him and he didn't want to hurt his parents, he was forced to do the arranged marriage. We talked...

  I won’t say that your lessons were very easy to learn – but I will say that all of your lessons came at a time when I needed them the most Everyone has their own perspective and whatever it is I always learn to appreciate and respect their perspective. Even though sometimes their perspectives are different from mine, but I have learned to accept, respect and understand them . I often have the experience of having different opinions with other people but I don't always stand up for mine. If their opinion is right and I am wrong, then I don't hesitate to admit that their opinion is right. There are some people who have asked me, Am I never angry? Why can I be this patient? How can I have a mindset like this? How can I always understand someone? How can I understand their feelings? I think it started because I have a lot of siblings and also an elder. In my family, they demand me to be the perfect elder. They never said it openly, but indirectly they demanded that I ne...