Pearls Journey

  The world ain’t all sunshine and rainbows. It’s a very mean and nasty place and I don’t care how tough you are it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain’t about how hard ya hit. It’s about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward. Rocky Balboa We can't help someone if that person has the intention to heal themselves. No matter how hard we encourage them, but they don't want to, it's useless. No matter how sincere our intentions are to help them but they themselves don't want to try for themselves then it will be useless. Some time ago I met someone. At that time I asked him why he wanted to know me. Lonely. Whenever someone says that to me, somehow my intuition tells me that there is something deeper than that. There must be something wrong which will eventually emerge over time. When I first met him, he told me that he did all these things just b...

  We don’t meet people by accident. They are meant to cross our path for a reason. Never judge someone by their physical beauty. I often hear this from several people who at first they were strangers and then turned into my best friends. During my time as a volunteer, I got to know a lot of people. I got a lot of experience. Like this story, at that time I knew him because he sent me a DM. I asked him what brought him there. He was engaged and his parents did the arranged marriage for him. He said that in a few months he would be getting married. I asked him, if he was engaged, then why he felt lonely. Doesn't he now have a fiancé that they should both learn to know each other before their wedding? He told me actually he wasn't comfortable with any of that. He also felt that he did not like the girl his parents chose. It's just that because his parents were forcing him and he didn't want to hurt his parents, he was forced to do the arranged marriage. We talked...

  Met you as a stranger took you as a friend Hope we meet in Heaven where friendship never ends Some time ago, while I was scrolling through my timeline, a post caught my attention. The post caught my attention because someone wanted to share his sadness about his niece being hospitalized with bronchitis pneumonia. At that time I commented on the post. I encouraged him not to be sad and prayed that his niece would get well soon.   But it's just that somehow that post keep circling on my mind. As is my habit, I checked the person's bio, saw other posts he had made. I want to get to know him through his posts. After a while, I decided to Dm that person. I think actually the strongest reason why I wanted to get his DMs was because I know how sad it is to know someone we care about is in the hospital with bronchitis pneumonia. My daughter when she was a baby also experienced the same thing. Maybe that's the reason why I ended up DMing him. At first I thought may...

Don't try to provoke me, you won't win because of few words... I will be just quite because you are under my level! It is not an easy thing for someone to be able to hold back anger and control theirs emotions, especially when they are faced with a situation that really provokes them. It takes a good self-control to restrain themselves so that their anger doesn't get triggered which could cause them to end up regretting whatever they did just because of their momentary anger.  There are many ways for a person to provoke another person's anger, the easiest thing is through words. They only judge then make assumptions and then utter words that they unknowingly can trigger someone's anger. It could be that when that person did that, maybe that person didn't realize that what they were doing was actually triggering someone's anger.  Then what if in the end someone's anger is really triggered? Should that person vent their anger? Is that the b...

  “No Friendship can cross the path of our destiny without leaving some mark on it forever” By establishing friendships we can see various kinds of human traits and characters. Getting to know them more deeply allows us to know what kind of people we are friends with. This time I want to talk about toxic friendships. I have several times had the experience of making friends with people who could be categorized as toxic. When I first met them, I couldn't even recognize that they were toxic. They look sincere, fun and cool to be friends with. This time I will share my perspective about toxic friends based on my real life. When I was a teenager, at that time I still didn't really understand what a toxic friendship was. All I know is that several times I have had friends, ended in enmity or they badmouthed me. At that time I always blamed myself, that I was not good enough and could not understand them. In my mind maybe they really did that because maybe I was the one who ...

  Become a volunteer? It honestly never crossed my mind that one day I would be able to have this kind of experience. Since childhood, in my country I enjoy participating in various kinds of activities. Let's say starting from scouts, Red Cross, or maybe nature lovers. But I never took it all seriously. Just because I feel I enjoy doing it causes me to do it. Maybe because my nature that likes to help others makes me feel happy to be able to see other people happy. At first I joined a mental health application. Honestly I was there because I had personal issues and just wanted to vent about my own problems since I know I'm not someone who easily shares problems with others. I repeatedly come and go there whenever I have a problem. I just make a post and then ignore other comments or anything else. I did that for about half a year until one day the admin made a post offering everyone there an opportunity to volunteer there. At that time I was interested and honestl...

  Everyone has different traits, characters and habits. Since I was a child, I used to hang out and get acquainted with many people. Maybe this is because the genes passed on by my parents because they are also the type that is easy to get along with makes me also have the same characteristics as them. Maybe also it's because since childhood I'm used to living moving from one place to another, making me have to learn quickly to get to know new places, make new friends and learn quickly to adapt myself to existing circumstances. Because all of that in the end made it easy for me to read other people's characteristics or traits. Maybe just by having a short conversation or reading their gestures, I can easily read whether they are happy, comfortable or uncomfortable talking to me or being near me. It's not an easy thing to do all that. When I first meet someone, I usually pay attention to how their mood is when they talk to me. Usually from the way they talk to me it ...