Pearls Journey

  “Goodbyes make you think. They make you realize what you’ve had, what you’ve lost, and what you’ve taken for granted.” Sometimes one wonders when someone leaves them without explanation. They felt they did nothing but in the end they were left behind. They focus on their pain without thinking about why they were left behind. But has anyone ever thought about the reason why that person was abandoned? Especially if the person doing so is someone they deem important to them. There are many reasons why someone chooses to leave especially if that person has tried their best, put in their best effort but all of that is never considered by others. While they often blame others for leaving them without an explanation instead of introspecting themselves, could it be that they were the ones who made the mistake that someone so important to them left them? Often times, because they are too comfortable with someone, they forget that they also have to pay attention to the other part...

  Truth is like surgery. It hurts but it cures. A lie is like a pain killer. It gives instant relief but has side effects forever. The word narcissism gets tossed around a lot in our selfie-obsessed, celebrity-driven culture, often to describe someone who seems excessively vain or full of themselves. But in psychological terms, narcissism doesn’t mean self-love—at least not of a genuine sort. It’s more accurate to say that people with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) are in love with an idealized, grandiose image of themselves. And they’re in love with this inflated self-image precisely because it allows them to avoid deep feelings of insecurity. But propping up their delusions of grandeur takes a lot of work—and that’s where the dysfunctional attitudes and behaviors come in. Narcissistic personality disorder involves a pattern of self-centered, arrogant thinking and behavior, a lack of empathy and consideration for other people, and an excessive need for admiration. Oth...

  “For beautiful eyes, look for the good in others; for beautiful lips, speak only words of kindness; and for poise, walk with the knowledge that you are never alone.” — Audrey Hepburn   We will never know who we will cross paths with. Sometimes the ending can end badly but it can also end happily. Like the experience I've had. I'm not the type to easily share my burdens with others because I know everyone has their own problems. Sometimes we don't even know what their state is like. Based on my experience, sometimes if we want to share our problems to lighten our burdens then the person that we are talking to is not in a good situation, what will happen is a misunderstanding … Maybe they will still listen to us because they think they have to because we always listen to them whenever they need us and it makes them want to do it just because they feel bad while actually they are not at their best condition for talked to. In the end I decided to join in on a p...

  There are wounds that never show on the body that are deeper and more hurtful than anything that bleeds. – Laurell K. Hamilton Knowing when everyone is rejecting you, belittling you, and doubting you is definitely stressful. Knowing that everything you do always seems to never be enough for them is quite frustrating. That's something I often experience. Everything I do seems never enough and always ends in mistake. To always stand back and try to prove that we are not someone like that is also not an easy thing. This is an experience I had recently. To this person, I was always the one who never did anything right, I always made mistakes and I always did all kinds of stupid things. I never knew what sin I had committed until s he could judge and make such assumptions about me. I only regret one thing . I didn't expect that s he should have been the first person to support me, cheer me up when I was down but turned out she was the one who brought me down the most. ...

  We don’t meet people by accident. They are meant to cross our path for a reason. Never judge someone by their physical beauty. I often hear this from several people who at first they were strangers and then turned into my best friends. During my time as a volunteer, I got to know a lot of people. I got a lot of experience. Like this story, at that time I knew him because he sent me a DM. I asked him what brought him there. He was engaged and his parents did the arranged marriage for him. He said that in a few months he would be getting married. I asked him, if he was engaged, then why he felt lonely. Doesn't he now have a fiancé that they should both learn to know each other before their wedding? He told me actually he wasn't comfortable with any of that. He also felt that he did not like the girl his parents chose. It's just that because his parents were forcing him and he didn't want to hurt his parents, he was forced to do the arranged marriage. We talked...

  I won’t say that your lessons were very easy to learn – but I will say that all of your lessons came at a time when I needed them the most Everyone has their own perspective and whatever it is I always learn to appreciate and respect their perspective. Even though sometimes their perspectives are different from mine, but I have learned to accept, respect and understand them . I often have the experience of having different opinions with other people but I don't always stand up for mine. If their opinion is right and I am wrong, then I don't hesitate to admit that their opinion is right. There are some people who have asked me, Am I never angry? Why can I be this patient? How can I have a mindset like this? How can I always understand someone? How can I understand their feelings? I think it started because I have a lot of siblings and also an elder. In my family, they demand me to be the perfect elder. They never said it openly, but indirectly they demanded that I ne...

      “Healing doesn’t mean the pain never existed. It means the damage no longer controls our lives” This morning was enough to freak me out for the second time. When I open my twitter account, suddenly I can't log in. At first I just thought this was normal. They asked me to verify my phone number but when I did the verification code didn't appear in my message. I tried several times but it still didn't work. I even uninstalled twitter on my phone and reinstalled it again but it still doesn't work. Because this morning was quite hectic with my daily tasks, I had to skip my twitter issue for a while. When I had some free time, I thought back to that issue. I was curious and tried to send an email asking why I couldn't access my account. Why do I sound exaggerating? I've had an account on twitter since 2009 so it would be a shock to me if suddenly today I can't access my account. I don't want to lose this account. It would be a lie if this incident...

  Met you as a stranger took you as a friend Hope we meet in Heaven where friendship never ends Some time ago, while I was scrolling through my timeline, a post caught my attention. The post caught my attention because someone wanted to share his sadness about his niece being hospitalized with bronchitis pneumonia. At that time I commented on the post. I encouraged him not to be sad and prayed that his niece would get well soon.   But it's just that somehow that post keep circling on my mind. As is my habit, I checked the person's bio, saw other posts he had made. I want to get to know him through his posts. After a while, I decided to Dm that person. I think actually the strongest reason why I wanted to get his DMs was because I know how sad it is to know someone we care about is in the hospital with bronchitis pneumonia. My daughter when she was a baby also experienced the same thing. Maybe that's the reason why I ended up DMing him. At first I thought may...

  “Some people with autism may not be able to speak or answer to their name, but they can still hear your words and feel your kindness.” Having a special child is not easy. My son was diagnosed with passive autism when he was in kindergarten. At that time the results of the report given stated that my son suffered from passive autism. When he was still in my tummy, I almost lost him when I carried him in my fourth month of pregnancy. That period really drained my emotions, thoughts, soul and energy so when he was born , when the first time I carried him, I know he will be my everything, he will always be my world Everything was perfect at first. Just like other babies, he looks handsome and very adorable. Since he was a baby, he never gave me any trouble. He's an easy baby for me to take care of and I'm determined to take care of him by myself because I really like babies and kids . Another reason is my pregnancy experience made me not want to lose all the moments with...

                                   “When you have a dream, you’ve got to grab it and never let go.” If you ask me , have I ever thought about becoming a book author? I never even dreamed of becoming a book author. I never even knew that I could write something or make something out of writing. In my youth I never even wrote a diary for my daily life. I'm a book lover. I love reading and I've been doing it since I was a kid. At that time I started to be interested in reading comics. I like Doraemon, Detective Conan, Kariage Kun, Sailor Moon and various other comics. Besides reading comics, at that time I also liked reading children's magazines that were sold in my country. As I became a teenager, my reading choice grew to become a teen magazine. I started to like reading short stories. When I was in high school, I started to like reading novels. The first novel I read was by author Danielle Ste...