Pearls Journey

Don't try to provoke me, you won't win because of few words... I will be just quite because you are under my level! It is not an easy thing for someone to be able to hold back anger and control theirs emotions, especially when they are faced with a situation that really provokes them. It takes a good self-control to restrain themselves so that their anger doesn't get triggered which could cause them to end up regretting whatever they did just because of their momentary anger.  There are many ways for a person to provoke another person's anger, the easiest thing is through words. They only judge then make assumptions and then utter words that they unknowingly can trigger someone's anger. It could be that when that person did that, maybe that person didn't realize that what they were doing was actually triggering someone's anger.  Then what if in the end someone's anger is really triggered? Should that person vent their anger? Is that the b...

  “No Friendship can cross the path of our destiny without leaving some mark on it forever” By establishing friendships we can see various kinds of human traits and characters. Getting to know them more deeply allows us to know what kind of people we are friends with. This time I want to talk about toxic friendships. I have several times had the experience of making friends with people who could be categorized as toxic. When I first met them, I couldn't even recognize that they were toxic. They look sincere, fun and cool to be friends with. This time I will share my perspective about toxic friends based on my real life. When I was a teenager, at that time I still didn't really understand what a toxic friendship was. All I know is that several times I have had friends, ended in enmity or they badmouthed me. At that time I always blamed myself, that I was not good enough and could not understand them. In my mind maybe they really did that because maybe I was the one who ...

  Pregnancy is something that is often awaited by married couples. So am I. Having children is an infinite gift given from God to us. I really like taking care of babies. Maybe it's because since childhood I always take care of my siblings, making me like babies and kids. Surprisingly they were easy to get close to me. Even though they're not my children and it might be our first meeting, but somehow it's always easy for me to get close to them. So when I got married, my partner and I did not delay the time to have children. At that time I was still working and I was very young. I’ m still immature and I'm still very inexperienced. My mindset was too simple, I like babies and kids so I wanted to experience pregnancy and have my own child. My pregnancy was not something easy for me to experience at that time. Not because of nausea in the morning or because my body is weak. The worst thing was that my emotions were suddenly much more unstable. I can barely con...

  Education is very important for a person, at least for me. You can get a good job, a great salary and a better life by having a higher education. But what if in reality everything does not go according to plan we want? When I was young, I played a lot with my youth. I don't take things seriously and maybe at that time I was just focused on a few things that caused me to miss out on a lot of opportunities that I should have been able to achieve. Who does not know that education is important? It's just that sometimes while undergoing it, there are many processes and other things that in the end can often make it all delayed. When I was in college, I didn't think seriously, did things the way I wanted and followed the direction of my heart. That caused me to end up dropping out of college and abandoning my dream as a bachelor degree just like that. I buried the dream because I thought I would never be able to do that again because it turned out that the direction of...

Have you ever hesitated to make a decision?   Everyone will often have doubts if they make a decision whether it's to decide something simple or maybe a difficult decision that will later be related to the changes that will occur in their lives.  Let's just say, what you want to eat this lunch? or which one will we buy? a simple newfangled dress or a cute asymmetrical model? Which make-up brand will I buy later? will this job suit to me or not? Will this person compatible for me or not? Will my partner be able to understand me or not? Will I choose to accept his proposal or not?  Those are some examples of decisions that we often have to make but sometimes can make us hesitate to decide. Let's say that if we decide on something easy, maybe the changes caused by our decision won't really affect us that much. But what if the decision we have to make is something that will bring drastic changes to our lives?  A person's age, maturity, experience they have, th...

  Become a volunteer? It honestly never crossed my mind that one day I would be able to have this kind of experience. Since childhood, in my country I enjoy participating in various kinds of activities. Let's say starting from scouts, Red Cross, or maybe nature lovers. But I never took it all seriously. Just because I feel I enjoy doing it causes me to do it. Maybe because my nature that likes to help others makes me feel happy to be able to see other people happy. At first I joined a mental health application. Honestly I was there because I had personal issues and just wanted to vent about my own problems since I know I'm not someone who easily shares problems with others. I repeatedly come and go there whenever I have a problem. I just make a post and then ignore other comments or anything else. I did that for about half a year until one day the admin made a post offering everyone there an opportunity to volunteer there. At that time I was interested and honestl...

  Everyone has different traits, characters and habits. Since I was a child, I used to hang out and get acquainted with many people. Maybe this is because the genes passed on by my parents because they are also the type that is easy to get along with makes me also have the same characteristics as them. Maybe also it's because since childhood I'm used to living moving from one place to another, making me have to learn quickly to get to know new places, make new friends and learn quickly to adapt myself to existing circumstances. Because all of that in the end made it easy for me to read other people's characteristics or traits. Maybe just by having a short conversation or reading their gestures, I can easily read whether they are happy, comfortable or uncomfortable talking to me or being near me. It's not an easy thing to do all that. When I first meet someone, I usually pay attention to how their mood is when they talk to me. Usually from the way they talk to me it ...